day 04 | cooperation: the mini course

Today we are talking about giving evidence. This is my favorite way to gain cooperation. Here’s why: this method takes advantage of a teachable moment.

  • When we SHOW our kid in the mirror that her face is dirty.
  • When we ask him to SMELL his dirty feet to give evidence that a bath is needed.

We are giving evidence of why they need to take part in silly societal norms like bath-taking and face-washing. When we give evidence, we are taking a step forward in teaching them to take these actions independently…rather than waiting for us to nag prompt them to do it. 

This takes a little more time and attention to put into place, so isn’t also practical. But when you can use it–it’s great. If you are rushing and in a hurry, I recommend going back to the First-Then principle.

Denaye Barahona

Denaye Barahona is a loving wife and mama of two. She's a therapist for moms, an author, and the host of the top-ranked Simple Families Podcast. Denaye holds a Ph.D. in Child Development and is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. She has been featured on the likes of The Today Show, Netflix, The Wall Street Journal, Real Simple, Forbes, and numerous other media outlets.