Ripping the Band-Aid off Clutter

clothesIf you know me, you know I am seriously into decluttering. Not only do I want to have a cleaner home, but I also want to instill a family value into my children. I want to teach my kids to buy intentionally. It goes hand-in-hand with decluttering.

I want my kids to be able to distinguish between the essentials and the non-essentials. Because the non-essentials have another code name: clutter.

I have become very skilled at getting rid of things we don't need at home. Be here's my issue:I.am.constantly.decluttering.

Back in May I led over 200 of you on a Toy Detox. We got exciting results. I saw photos of play spaces and homes completely transformed. The results were amazing. With fewer toys, kids were playing better. Parents were cleaning up less.

But here's an update. I have heard from several Toy Detoxers that they need the program again. This tells me I am not the only one in a constant mode of decluttering.

I recently I had had a come-to-Jesus moment.

My husband and I had our quarterly discussion on finances.

It usually starts like this:

"We need to save more money for retirement."

The discussion concludes with:

"Yes I agree. Let's make better choices with how we spend our money."

Then repeat that conversation over again. Every three months. For years.

In my own experience of decluttering the house, my wardrobe, and the toys...I have learned one thing:decluttering is a band-aid for the real problem.

The real problem? Buying too much stuff.

Sure, it's easy to blame the grandparents for buying too many toys (it is all their fault, right?). But the reality is we can all do better when it comes to buying intentionally for our own families.

I need another delivery from Amazon Prime like I need a kick in the face.

You too? I am going to get to work a plan to get to the root of the problem, no more band-aids. But I need your help.

I want to interview at least 20 families about this--I want to hear about your experience with clutter. I want this new plan to serve you well. If you are open to talking more to me about this topic, please leave a comment. Let's chat.

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Denaye Barahona

Dr. Denaye Barahona is a loving wife and mama of two. She partners with families to tackle the challenges of raising children. Denaye is a minimalist who claims to be a decluttering expert (don't let her near your closet). She loves to travel, talk health-and-wellness, and give unsolicited advice. She has been featured on the likes of The Today Show, The Wall Street Journal, The Huffington Post, The Minimalists, Motherly, Becoming Minimalist, and numerous other media outlets. Denaye holds a Ph.D. in Child Development and is a Clinical Social Worker with a specialty in child and family practice.